Girlfriend tricks boyfriend into paying for her friend at dinner, he reluctantly agrees to not cause a scene, but results in relationship tension: “I was caught off guard”

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    AITA for Not Wanting to Pay for My Girlfriend’s Friend’s Meal?

    "She's using you like an ATM"
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    So, my (28M) girlfriend (27F) and I went out to dinner last night. It was supposed to be just us, but last minute, she asked if her friend (let's call her Sarah) could join. I said sure, no problem.
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    Dinner was nice, we all had a good time, and when the bill came, I put down my card to cover my girlfriend and me. But then Sarah just sat there, not reaching for her wallet. My girlfriend looked at me and casually said, "Oh, babe, can you cover Sarah's too?"
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    I was caught off guard. Sarah had ordered a ton-appetizers, drinks, dessert and her portion was almost as much as ours combined. I hesitated and said, "Uh, I wasn't really planning on that." My girlfriend looked embarrassed and mumbled, "It's just easier if you do."
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    SANGOVER
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    Sarah stayed quiet but also didn't offer to pay for herself. I ended up paying because I didn't want to cause a scene, but I was annoyed. Later, I told my girlfriend that I didn't appreciate being put on the spot like that. She got defensive, saying I was being stingy and that "it's just one meal.” I argued that it
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    wasn't about the money—it was about being expected to pay without being asked beforehand. Now she's upset, and I feel like I might have overreacted. AITA?
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    Ok_Childhood_9774 You did not overreact. Your girlfriend invited Sarah without telling you beforehand and then manipulated you and put you on the spot, which was a really r de thing to do. She owes you a huge apology and the money for her friend's meal.
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    NavyShooter_NS It's always 'easier' when it's someone else's money. NTA in any way shape or form.
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    Sum... NTA it's the beggining now she know she can do what she wants with you. She just have to make you feel guilty and you will pay.
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    Paying for her is one thing but for her friends? She is using you like an atm
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    Anxious-One-2365 Plan a date with your girlfriend and tell her it's her. turn to pay since you paid last time. Invite a buddy at the last minute to join you. Make her pay for all three meals and see how she likes it. Turn about is fair play.
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    Fragrant_Spray You got played. Your gf invited her friend and told her you would pay. She knew she could put you on the spot, and you'd do it. I guess there's two ways to look at this.
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    You can say this was sort of a "one time" thing that you use as an opportunity to draw boundaries. "In the future, if you bring a friend to dinner, YOU can pay for ALL of us. You know, because one person paying is just easier". If that ever happens again, and she "forgets her wallet" or
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    "thought you were kidding", end the relationship right there, on the spot. Either that, or you can see this as your gf's willingness to manipulate you to benefit at your expense, or to show off her lack of respect to her friends. Then, start taking a
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    closer look at the relationship and figure out if this is really the relationship you want to be in. Surely, this is not the only time you've felt this relationship is more of her taking advantage of you. If you play this off as "no big deal", it will absolutely happen again.
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    Amazing-Wave4704 You shouldn't have paid for either the friend OR your girlfriend. I dont like her. Is she keeper?
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    UnfairEntrance159 NTA. Your gf put you in a really awkward spot. She should've asked you in private before dinner.
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    snowballeveryday Most likely it was a "test" to see what kind of man you are or some bulls Your girlfriend is either batshit or has friends who are insane and want to drag her down as well.
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    VirusZealousideal72 I bet you anything that was the plan and that was why your gf invited her friend.
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    You should have left them to figure it out among themselves. The audacity is quite staggering honestly. NTA.
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    enigmanaught Girlfriend's friend ordered a bunch of expensive stuff because she knew she wouldn't have to pay. Either they're both in on it or girlfriend told her you'd pay for it.

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